Why do we hate other's success?
Everybody wants to succeed in life. For some, success means achieving whatever they desire or dream. For many, it is the name, fame and social position. Whatever be the meaning of success, it is success that makes a person popular.
I think fame or popularity is what most of us use as a Unit to define success. However we often forget about the cost of being successful. I'm not talking about owning a G-Wagon here. I am talking about the unreal hate that most successful people or celebrities face, be it over the internet(twitter iykyk) or being abused in public. We have seen tons of videos of them being treated in a certain manner, being hated for no reason or maybe a very personal reason. I don’t know. I can easily recall conversations I had with people around me discussing that ‘Falana is there for nepotism, he was nothing, his luck worked out’.
The question here is why does this unreal amount of hate exist among us? Why do we envy the success of others? And I am not just talking about celebrities, we all are guilty of hating our friends or family members success. Aren’t we?
THE DILEMMA
See success is different for everybody, it can be x amount of money for someone or it can be a nice cooked meal in mountains for some. We all have our own version of it and will probably be satisfied if we achieve our very own version of success. This will make us happy, bring tears of joy to our eyes and everybody around us, or those who have supported us. Happy Ending!
But this is usually not the way it goes. Envy and hatred in others comes along with success. One can say it is the consequence of our achievements. Contrast to it, after being envious of someone, who may or may not be dear to us, we start questioning ourselves, asking Am I a bad person? Why do I hate my best friend because of his success? What is this abnormality? Let me get this straight, you are completely normal. All these thoughts are just human nature, nothing is unnatural here. But of course there are reasons as to why we have these “weird” thoughts.
WHY DOES THIS PARADOX EXISTS?
From what I have read, researched, learnt and observed, you might find the following points amusing or strange, might even say I am not this kind of person.
People often dislike others' success due to a mix of jealousy, fear of change, perceived unfairness, and personal insecurities. Jealousy for one, can lead to negative feelings as witnessing someone else's success might invoke a sense of inadequacy or dissatisfaction with one's own life. Fear of change also plays a role; success often brings new challenges that can be intimidating, making us feel threatened by the need to adapt or worry about being left behind. Additionally, the perception of unfairness can breed resentment, as we may believe the successful person had advantages or luck that others didn't. Lastly, personal insecurities are a significant factor; success in others can trigger worries about one's own abilities and potential, leading to negativity or criticism as a defence mechanism to deflect attention from our own shortcomings. The sense of non achievement hits so badly that we don't want to be around these people, even if we played with them in our backyards.
SHOULD WE BE ACTUALLY WORRIED ABOUT THIS?
There is no one cure for this feeling, I don't even think therapy does much. One cure is to become more successful than the target of your jealousy or more importantly fully understand that everybody's success is a function of hard work or rarely some large inheritance or pure luck. So once one is in terms with this basic truth, life just becomes easier and you eventually learn to envy in a good way.
There is nothing wrong with you, I'm sure you are a good person since you recognise this as a problem. Sadly it has got nothing to do with being good or bad, these are just the thoughts we have because we are human. The best you can do is improve yourself daily, read, write, proclaim nice and positive things to yourself everyday, master that hobby of yours, pick up something to learn and try to be the best person at that thing that you know, and always be thankful for what you have or where you are, I'm 100% sure someone envies you.
Keep calm, you are only human.
Kudos to you if you have read this far, still, if you have not got the point, pay heed to these lines, I'm also a passenger on this boat. I'm also guilty of judging people based on their success and have rolled my eyes over many. Can’t help it, it is what it is and i think as humans we have this inbuilt and probably have to live with it unless you live in the Himalayas. All I am saying is don’t let this small flavour of hatred take over the tasty cake you have built over the years.
That's been it for this time
I'll catch you in the next one’
Also drink water after reading this, it will make you feel better trust me and also garmi bahut hai
Bye Bye!
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